November 20, 2015
Authenticity
When we try to be “real” with others – “authentic,” we might say more formally – we mean many things. We often mean simply to share how we feel or what we want rather than to hide it. We say that our feelings are hurt, that we are angry, that we want more attention, or whatever, rather than just going […]
October 2, 2015
Relationship Assumptions
I keep learning from my wife, even after almost 40 years together. We realized quite a while ago that we tend to make different assumptions when we encounter people and that these assumptions shape our experience with them. I have, for years, been experimenting with making her assumptions at times and I have been encouraging her to appreciate mine. Perhaps […]
August 26, 2015
Action
I often have the experience with clients, or participants in the workshop, that they “already know” pretty much anything relevant to a situation they are struggling with. “I’ve looked at this from every angle,” they tell me. They can even demonstrate their knowledge, raising every consideration for why they should or shouldn’t leave their marriage, or change their job, or […]